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Finding Ourselves When We Lose Race

not-until-we-are-lost-do-not-begin-to-find-ourselves-quote-1I know the story of race but I am not the storyteller.  I know the history of racism but I am not the historian.  I have had the experiences of prejudice and stereotyping but I am not their victim.  I know the world but I am not a citizen.  I do not belong in a racial category.

I do not come from race and it is important that I consistently make this declaration.  To be sure, it is a daily and on some days, an hourly commitment and rededication.  It is so easy to just throw up your hands and give up the search for me, to go back to what is and was.

But, I wasn’t born to pass on the story, to catalogue events, to repeat the traditions, to be socially colored black.  I was not purposed to live with race and to accept its signs.  I came to guide us out of race, to lose race by questioning its directions and social cues.  I found myself the day I asked, “Do I have to be black?”

Here are some questions that might help you on your journey toward racelessness:

  1.  What would you look like without race?  How would you identify yourself?
  2. Who are you apart from race?
  3. What do you mean without race?
  4. What is your purpose and place aside from race?
  5. What would your relationships look like if not for race, prejudice and stereotypes?
  6. How might your language be different without the experiences and expressions of race?
  7. If you did not believe race to be omnipresent, where would you go?
  8. If you did not think race was omnipotent, what would you do?
  9. If you did not accept that race is omniscient, what would you think of yourself?
  10. What does race do for you?

The secret is this: the questions are the answers.  Lose race and you will find yourself.